In many of my students I noticed that high expectations were the leading cause of "musical depression".
Musical Depression has many symptoms including:
- Stage fright
- Creative blocks
- Low confidence
- Arrogance
Of course there are many other symptoms as a result of anxiety due to impossible to meet expectations.
Unfortunately expectations also are the leading cause of "creative differences" between band members.
High Expectations lead to feelings of annoyance with others who "don’t pull their weight". Don't get me wrong sometimes those people need to be replaced, but many times it is a self-destructive issue that is born of High Expectations mixed with Low Confidence.
How do we fix these issues?
There will be many realizations along the way to your success; the first must be the realization that Failure Is Temporary. That’s right. No matter how it feels in the moment, that feeling will pass and you are one step closer to getting where you want.
If you follow through with your plans!
Don’t waste your time putting more pressure on you self by holding on to your failures, there are going to be many through your life. Don’t worry about it because we all go through it. (except that guy with the beard from the dos equis commercials)
The difference between people who are successful and the others are the habits of shrugging off the temporary failure and getting what you want by taking the next step.
Expectations don’t have to be bad
If you keep them in perspective and "roll with the Punches" you can use those expectations as long-term goals. But you must be aware of expectations because they lurk in the corners of your dreams and hide between the lines of your goals!
Creating a series of short term goals are key elements to controlling your expectations and making those otherwise heavy ideas feel as light as a feather.
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